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Episode 41. Australian Family Law Reform.

Introduction Audio Mayim Bialik https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eW__B3YCp78

The Australian Law Reform Commission (ALRC) has released an Issues Paper for its Review of the Family Law System, and is calling for submissions from the public. The family law system is undergoing its first, independent comprehensive review since the inception of the Family Law Act 1975 more than forty years ago. Much has changed in Australian social and family life since then. For example, there are more people living together outside marriage, there are more changes in relationships and stepfamilies, reproductive technologies mean families can be formed in diverse ways, same-sex marriage is now legalised, and there is greater awareness of the prevalence of family violence and child abuse and the damage they can cause.

In this episode I discuss the Issues paper and it’s content relating to IPCA and PA. And add my thoughts. This episode is a call to action for all Australians who have recently gone through the Family Courts to have their voices heard and make a difference. The time for a fairer legal system for children and parents is now.

Read the paper – https://www.alrc.gov.au/news-media/media-release/family-law-system-IP

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30 Replies to “Episode 41. Australian Family Law Reform.”

  1. Mr. Whittington has notoriously posted defamatory statements against the individuals behind this site as well as his previous clients, attorney’s, and even people he considers “friends.”

    This site is being shared not in an attempt to in anyway discredit Adam Whittington or his company Child Abduction Recovery International. With the evidence the site shares, Mr. Whittington has done that for himself. If you investigate you’ll see that he has been accused of rape, faking recoveries, threatening people, making slanderous comments, & libeling anyone that attempts to bring his antics to the public and he does it in a way that is no only unprofessional, but done using some of the foulest language you can imagine.
    https://abpworldgroup.com/2018/03/30/whittingtoncari-com-launched-to-allow-people-to-understand-the-truth-behind-notorious-child-abduction-gang-leader-adam-whittington/

  2. As the father of a young son I have been through the West Australian Family Court system and did not come out the other side intact.

    This is the blurb about the book I wrote on my experience:

    “Parental Alienation A Loving Father’s Lost Years” by Allan Freeman-Jones

    Parental Alienation is the scourge of modern day co-parenting. Aided by indifferent and often out-dated Family Court systems, a legion of children and co-parents are living alienated lives. This is a story of our time.

    In the space of four years Allan went from bachelor to alienated father. When it looked like Allan may have gained increased access to his son Timothy, Margaret played her trump card; the father was accused of sexually abusing his son.

    Upon the order of the Family Court, contact between father and son ceased. When re-established, contact was supervised. Investigations by the Department For Child Protection and the Police concluded the allegations were unfounded.

    Allan was saddened his son had now become a stranger to him. For the sake of his son’s mental and emotional wellbeing, seeing it as his only realistic course of action, Allan exited his son’s life. Nearly eight years have passed without any contact between Allan and Timothy.

    After a few false starts, Margaret’s alienation plan ultimately proved successful.

    https://twitter.com/fatheralienated

    • Thank you for reaching out Allan, and sorry to hear your story. Let’s hope we can get some real change happening soon.

          • As with all Parental Alienation stories, a few sentences does not do them justice, or further the greater good.

            That being said, this is the blurb about the book I wrote on my PA experience, over 5 years worth of work:

            “Parental Alienation A Loving Father’s Lost Years” by Allan Freeman-Jones

            Parental Alienation is the scourge of modern day co-parenting. Aided by indifferent and often out-dated Family Court systems, a legion of children and co-parents are living alienated lives. This is a story of our time.

            In the space of four years Allan went from bachelor to alienated father. When it looked like Allan may have gained increased access to his son Timothy, Margaret played her trump card; the father was accused of sexually abusing his son.

            Upon the order of the Family Court, contact between father and son ceased. When re-established, contact was supervised. Investigations by the Department For Child Protection and the Police concluded the allegations were unfounded.

            Allan was saddened his son had now become a stranger to him. For the sake of his son’s mental and emotional wellbeing, seeing it as his only realistic course of action, Allan exited his son’s life. Nearly eight years have passed without any contact between Allan and Timothy.

            After a few false starts, Margaret’s alienation plan ultimately proved successful.

            https://twitter.com/fatheralienated

  3. This is the book I wish I could’ve read when I was broken. It details my entire journey from marrying a man with a cluster B personality disorder,living with his abuse,my eventual escape from him after many years of marriage and then as he promised me through gritted teeth if I divorced him,losing everything including my children who he turned against me.
    We explore how I learned about cluster B disorders particularly Narcissism and how I healed myself from this toxic relationship.
    As I began healing I thought of myself as a caterpillar gathering knowledge and working towards a transition of huge changes towards a fully fledged butterfly and freedom.
    I used this knowledge to write manageable bite size ‘Chrysalis to Butterfly’ healing blogs designed to be read in order chunk by chunk through your recovery but also in titled sections so they can easily be referred back to.These have helped many survivors navigate their way out of abusive relationships and onto the healing road towards recovery.
    I’ve included my personal Parental Alienation Diary,which details how the Nex achieved total alienation of my children from me.
    Then I explore how I reconnected with my scapegoat son despite my daughter,the Nex golden child still being lost in the fog of alienation for nearly four years as this book was going to be published.
    All my advice and articles have either appeared in my secret abuse recovery group and been read by survivors or more recently on Tammy Mariposa public page where I write exclusively for target parents and have helped them to reconnect with their children using my ‘drips of love’ technique.
    When my son returned to me I held on through my joy pain and tears and continued to journal my sons reunification story over the year which provides valuable insight into how parental alienation is achieved and how the conditioning can be broken by the ‘Drips of love’ technique.
    So let me hold your hand and walk with you in your grief and pain and help you to heal yourself by firstly letting go of the guilt about moving forwards without your children so you can reach a mentally healthy place, so you are then in a position to rescue your children from their pathogenic parent.
    Firstly by understanding what is actually happening to your child, how your alienated child thinks and secondly how you can use this knowledge to reconnect with them and repair and nurture a loving relationship with them once again.
    We then explore how we can look to the future with our new knowledge by turning our pain into positivity and heal to such a point where we can live a life of love and abundance.
    https://www.amazon.com/Your-Own-Hero-Tammy-Mariposa-ebook/dp/B075V89JRZ/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1507065167&sr=1-1&keywords=tammy+mariposa

  4. Very useful advice in this episode. It is the little things that will bring about the most change. I’m inspired by this episode. Thank you Paul

  5. Long over due. I submitted to this too. Let’s hope they finally listen to us and make positive changes,

  6. Our current system is so unfair for everyone. We definitely need reform. Thanks for being so active in this Paul.

  7. I’m totally with you on this Paul. Our legal system is pre-historic and in dire need of reform. Keep pushing this message and make people listen.

  8. An adult child of divorce shares the heartache of their parents’ tumultuous divorce. Sadly, the devastating impact of the UNTRUTHS and the LIES may never truly be realized in ones’ life.

    Complicating the matter is the underlying premise that we never know what the back story is for an individual.

    .

    Sometimes the biggest lie is the one most often believed . .

    ..but I guess, if one can reconcile the pain and distinguish the lies from the truth, and not feel the shame or anger that goes along with the process, even the biggest untruths will slip away like grains of sand in the ocean . . .

  9. To Anyone thinking about divorce,

    The divorce was not my idea!

    I hate that my daughter will grow up as I did. Four sets of grandparents to visit at the holidays. Anxiety at school events because her parents do not get along.

    My parents are divorced. My brothers and sister are divorced. Several aunts and uncles are divorced. This is what my daughter has-a family of divorces.

    I regret that my daughter has to live in a world of unknowns.

    I wish there was something I could do to make this better for my baby.

    To all parents out there thinking about divorce. Don’t do it!

  10. This is how it works.

    When you finally do the get chance to spend time with your child, you are so worked up and well-rested from the sometimes two weeks without contact (I’m lucky I only have to go 8 days), that you cannot sleep when they are with you.

    You feel ready to go to sleep, you feel tired, but when you actually lie down to go to bed you can’t help but get up and walk by their room, or perhaps, even go in and sit with them while they sleep. You don’t want to miss a moment of time because it is so precious.

  11. Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones by H. J. Warren

    “Sticks and stones may break my bones

    But words could never hurt me.”

    And this I knew was surely true

    And Truth could not desert me.

    But now I know it is not so.

    I’ve changed the latter part;

    For sticks and stones may break the bones

    But words can break the heart.

    Sticks and stones may break the bones

    But leave the spirit whole,

    But simple words can break the heart

    Or silence crush the soul.”

  12. Child is broken all the way to the heart. There is a feel of mystery in how the child appears with the legs of the child showing from behind. Each parent is spouting their words of ‘truth’. This appears to be a volatile ‘conversation’. Seemingly, neither parent is demonstrating concern for the child. Do these parents realize how harmful their actions are? Will either parent put their own anger aside and tend to the needs of their child?

  13. The abnormal relationship promoted by the alienating parent is a form of control and manipulation. Strings of fear and guilt tend to keep the child from venturing out and developing as a person. The child is led to believe they are unimportant and, worse yet, unlovable. Patterns of communication established in early childhood impact every aspect of the child’s life. Ego, relationships, and self-esteem are based on the parent-child relationship. Sadly, one can easily become entrapped and pass the family ‘tradition’ down to their own children. Creating an intergenerational pattern of behaviors.

  14. No More Fear

    In the world of parental alienation, we are intimidated by those who choose to destroy us. However, in the wilderness, there are animals who seek to devour us out of instict and survival.

    I had the rare opportunity to travel to Alaska in the late 1990’s with my dad to fish and explore. During a fly-in trip to an out of the way inlet, I got out of the boat to fish for red salmon. It was exhirating and I felt alive.

    However, there was a female brown bear behind me at no more than thirthy feet. I wasn’t concerned about the danger that she posed. Instead, I focused on the task at hand and that was to catch my fish.

    Though, it was dangerous to be so near such a wild animal of it’s type, I kept my attention on my fish.

    The same should be in the forefront of your mind as you fight for your children. Don’t worry about the danger behind you, but concern yourself with what is most important and that is, your children.

    David Shubert

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