Episode 53. Housekeeping, news, music and ‘that’ Australian Senator

This week I cover a wide range of topics, from plans for the show moving forward, law changes in the U.S. and Australia, and my thoughts on comments made by Australian Senator Pauline Hanson on family courts, a speech that is being widely shared by fathers groups. The keep the show from being just myself talking I’ve featured some songs written and performed by alienated parents, and one song by my favourite band.
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21 Replies to “Episode 53. Housekeeping, news, music and ‘that’ Australian Senator”

  1. Data shows that people who were forcibly separated from their families as children experienced significant, long-lasting negative impacts: they were almost twice as likely to be charged with a crime as adults, 60 percent more likely to have alcohol use disorders, and more than twice as likely to have gambling problems.

    Surveys found that even the children of people who’d been separated from their parents in Australia had more than double the average risk of emotional and behavioural difficulties.


    Often the alienating parent says they are “encouraging the children” to make contact with the other parent. But as we know there is a lot of emotional confiding and distorted communications going on which causes the child to reject the targeted parent.

    I was reading the “Parental Alienation Handbook for Mental Health and Legal Professionals. Here are some good questions the alienating parent should be asked in court.

    It is not the questions that are the emphasis here, but how the parents respond will tell you a lot.

    1. Ask the alienating parent: “Are you concerned about your child not going on visits?”
    2. Ask the alienating parent: “How have you changed your conduct when you see your encouragement is not working?”
    3. Ask the alienating parent: “What have you done differently to show your concern?
    The formula for the questions is: guidance-boundaries-incentives-consequences
    a. Guidance in your status calls on cases, ask the parents to tell the court (put this on the record) “What guidance do you give to your child about the other parent?”
    b. Boundaries . . . ask “What boundaries are in your household, what do you do when they are broken, what are the rules of the household?”
    c. Incentives . . . ask, “What incentives do you have for doing chores, and so on?” then ask “What incentives do you give your child to go on visits?”
    d. Consequences . . . ask, “What are the consequences in your household for low grades, not cleaning the room, and so on. What are consequences if you child does not go on the visits?”

    Judges comments: Try to find out if they have used their best skill set, and it still does not work. What you want to look for: They are either lying about their good faith efforts to foster visitation or they are a completely ineffective parents. It may be that unless there is a transfer of custody, the situation cannot be turned around. Make sure you always have a court reporter for this questioning. I have ordered that these transcripts follow the case. It is important that the next judge see it before alienators have a chance to clean up their testimony.

  3. “Suicide: The Ripple Effect” is a feature length documentary film and MOVEMENT, focusing on the devastating effects of suicide and the tremendous positive ripple effects of advocacy, inspiration and hope that are helping millions heal & stay alive.

    Fighting back tears before a Senate panel, American physician Chris Brann on Tuesday recounted the abduction of his son, Nicholas, who was taken to Brazil in 2012.

    “This is best described as a living death,” Brann said in a halting, emotion-laden voice. “He [Nicholas] was 3 years old when he was unilaterally ripped out of my life, moved to a country he had never lived in, to a language he didn’t speak, to a culture he didn’t understand.”

    Brann added, “I’ve never been allowed to be there for his birthday, to be there for Christmas. You can’t know what that feels like until you’ve been in that situation. As a father, there are times I feel like a failure because I wasn’t able to protect my boy.”

  5. A government panel is considering making it easier for children to be handed over to parents who have secured custody even if the former spouse defies a court order to let them go, sources close to the matter said Tuesday.

    The Justice Ministry advisory panel plans to allow the hand-over of children to parents who have won custody, even in the absence of the parent defying the court order, the sources said.

  6. In its latest advertising campaign, detergent brand Omo features a young boy reading from a homemade Father’s Day card.

    “Thank you for always being there for me,” the boy reads, sitting on a coffee table. “You taught me how to build a fire, to tie a tie and hammer a hammer.”

    The camera then cuts to the person receiving the card. “Gogo, you are my hero!” the boy says, hugging his smiling grandmother.

    The ad opened with a stark statistic: “57% of SA kids are raised without fathers”. A reader flagged it for fact-checking.

  7. Allegations made in post divorce and separation cases are described by Blush and Ross in their work on the SET analysis and S.A.I.D syndrome. Put simply, it is possible to consider cases where allegations made from the perspective of power dynamics, that is, to think about who gains power over the children or advantage in the case when an allegation is made. Using this approach, it is possible to begin to understand the reasons why such allegations arise at given points in cases and why, for example, allegations that harm was done in the past, were not raised in the past but instead raised retrospectively to cause concern about the capacity of a parent to care for a child post separation.

  8. I appreciate the work you do Paul, I think things like youtube and patreon could open a lot more doors for you and help raise awareness further.

  9. Keep up the good work Paul. You’re doing something that is good and helpful to so many people. We can’t thank you enough for this.

  10. I’ve had issues with Pauline Hanson for a long time. I was a member of some fathers support groups on facebook, as being alientated from my father myself, I know what it’s like to be denied access to a Dad. But many of these groups supported Hanson and did not welcome people who didn’t support her.I agree with you Paul, she is the worst person possible to be aligned with this movement and we need to be as far away from her as possible.

  11. Thank you for all the work you do and for the effort you put into each show Paul. I really appreciate it

  12. The Second International Conference on Shared Parenting, organized by the International Council on Shared Parenting (ICSP), has recently concluded. Following the Council’s successful first conference on bridging the gap between empirical evidence and socio-legal practice, the aim of the second conference was to identify best practices for the legislative and psycho-social implementation of shared parenting. This was the second international gathering of scholars, practitioners and NGO representatives specializing in the field of co-parenting, with over twenty countries represented.

  13. On the run-up to the recent launch of NAAP sent out a 175 page document demanding the law is changed to protect children and parents alike when a marriage or relationship hits the rocks.

    The document – which you can read here – has been put together by lawyers, psychologists and alienation experts and has been sent to social services, Cafcass, Britain’s courts and Parliament.

  14. You’ve heard the phrase “it takes two to tango?” Well parent alienation requires an antagonist and an antagonised, a targeter and a target and a resident parent and a non-resident, in that order.

    While there are a few exceptions to the rule, because parent alienation is the act of one parent turning the children against the other parent in order to exclude them from their lives, the alienator’s greatest weapons are time and proximity to the kids. So, for that reason, they tend to be the resident parent, often the one who has used the children to acquire the combined assets of the family. This tends to cause a great deal of ill will.

    That is why it is such a lucrative but frankly filthy business and why alienators are so reviled by those in the know. So no surprise that no-one wanted to step forward for this interview as they’re either in denial or hiding in plain sight.

    So much credit to Lizzy (not her real name), who describes herself as reformed following over a decade of war with her ex over parenting their children.

  15. It’s so good to see an alienated father speaking out against Pauline Hanson. Too many fell for her empty promises and bullshit.

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